October is the month set aside to emphasize the importance of being more aware of domestic violence and all that it entails – BUT let’s seek to increase awareness while seeking to decrease the incidence of domestic violence.
Domestic violence In an abusive relationship often involves a number of tactics in addition to physical violence in order to maintain power and control, including emotional and verbal abuse in the form of put-downs, public humiliation, name-calling, mind games and manipulation often leaving the deepest scars; isolation with the victim not being able to see her friends or family members or continue to work because of absenteeism or decreased productivity; and/or threats and Intimidation, including threats of violence, suicide or taking away the children.
Too many people still believe that domestic violence is a private matter between a couple, rather than a criminal offense that merits a strong and swift response. All too often victims are so terrorized that they fear for their lives if they call the police. Silence is the batterer's best friend. We need to work to end the silence and change the attitude toward domestic crime.
Neighbors should contact the police when they hear violent fights in their neighborhoods… not turn a deal ear. Teachers need to be alert to signs that students have witnessed violence at home. Children who grow up in violent homes are more likely to become violent themselves. The cycle of violence is crying out to be broken.
Medical professionals who see the victims of violence need to inquire further… not just accept the statement of fearful victims that their bruises or cuts are the result of household accidents or falls. Members of the clergy need to become more involved as well to let her know that other options are available for her and her children.
Early intervention is critical because the levels of violence in these relationships tend to escalate, and many police departments cite domestic violence as their number one problem. We need tough laws that are effectively prosecuted, as well as more education in combination with cooperative approach among law enforcement and social service agencies.
Efforts to break the silence can make a difference. Learn more in the Domestic Violence Awareness Handbook at http://www.da.usda.gov/shmd/aware.htm. Let’s strive to break the cycle of domestic violence.
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